Relationships rarely involve just two people. There is nearly always a constellation of people involved – parents, in-laws, friends, co-workers, past or current lovers, and, of course, children.
Empathy and sympathy are not the same things…
How we think we are sometimes differs from how other people think we are. I’ll give you an example from a client many years ago…
Feeling secure in our relationships is important. We need to feel that there’s a secure base for us and a significant degree of intimacy and love where we can share our hopes, dreams, worries, and joys…
Most of us want to feel safe and secure in our primary relationship. We want to know that our partner is there when we need them and that we are loved and cared for, no matter what…
A relationship dynamic of Pursue-Withdraw is one of the most common in distressed relationships.
Plato, quoting Socrates, wrote that, “The unexamined life is not worth living.” We are more alive when we can reflect on who we are, how we act, and why we act in the ways we do…
Many people seeking couples counselling tell me that the problem lies with their partner. Their partner really needs to change or all is lost.